No right or wrong.
Sexual health issues for young gay people are broadly no different
to straight men and women. The same message of prevention of Sexually
transmitted Infections applies. Always wearing a condom
when having sex will reduce the risk of becoming infected. Click
here for information on Sexually transmitted Infections.
Remember if you think you may have a condition or infection your
sexual health is dependent on you seeking help from the services
listed in the clinics section
of this site.
What can affect gay people looking for help is fear of prejudice
and ignorance. There's no right or wrong regarding sexuality.
The argument of it not being 'natural' means nothing. It can be
difficult for people to accept things they don't understand. It
may even frighten them as they have their own latent gay feelings.
All clinics, doctors, school nurses and health professionals are
duty bound and legally obliged to give the same level of help and
support regardless of your sexual preference. DON'T let
the fear of how friends, family and peers may react may prevent
you for looking for help.
Imagine Sexuality as a paint chart, with black at one end and white
at the other, if you think of black as ‘straight’ and
white as ‘Gay’ there will be many different shades in
between. Your sexuality will fit somewhere on that chart and wherever
that is, it’s you and it’s OK.
It may take you some time to find out what your colour is, this
is very common and nothing to be worried about.
Sexuality involves our relationships with ourselves, those around
us and the society in which we live – wherever we see ourselves
on that big paint chart called sexuality.
Some frequently asked questions
Am I Gay?
‘I’m very confused, just recently I’ve started
to notice that I’m having feelings for my mates. I’ve
had quite a few girlfriends but they have never lasted longer than
a couple of weeks because I start to feel guilty that I’m
leading the girl on. Am I Gay?
Many young people have feelings towards other people of the same
sex, and wonder whether this means that they are Gay. For some these
feelings can be very intense and disturbing. Some who are attracted
to others of the same sex are gay and go on to have loving relationships
with others of the same sex. But others who have gay feelings find
that these change over time and become attracted to the opposite
sex. Others are attracted to people of both sexes and have relationships
Is being Gay a phase young people go through?
‘I thought, well, this is just the phase bit. Sooner
or later I’m going to start finding women attractive. I never
did. As I became more attracted to men, and I was still wasn’t
attracted to women, I thought, shit, your Gay. It was really quite
a shock when it hit me.’
Is it a phase we go through? For some people yes,
and for others no. Some people do not have their first gay experience
until they are well into adulthood. For others gay experiences may
well be part of growing up. This is hardly surprising given that
this a period of change in which young people find out who they
are and what they want for themselves in adult life. Whatever
your feelings, it is ok and perfectly normal, it is who you are!
Eventually all people who are gay realise that they are only attracted
to members of the same sex and that this attraction is not going
to go away and others who are straight realise that they are only
attracted to members of the opposite sex, the same applies to those
who are attracted to both sexes, whatever you feel is OK
and perfectly normal.
What is Homophobia?
‘It was really difficult at school. Girls kept asking
me if I was a gay because I had short hair and wore DMs. Rumours
started spreading all over the school and within a couple of days
it seemed everyone knew. From then on my life was a misery –
I was constantly bullied.'
Homophobia is a fear of and/or hostility towards gay people.
Homophobia is often expressed verbally and sometimes violently.
Young people are often teased, insulted and bullied because they
are gay or in many cases thought to be gay. Young people who are
living with same sex couples can also become victims of homophobic
If you unsure of your sexuality and feel you need someone to talk
to there are some local support
organisations listed on the website.